Do you want the marriage or the wifestyle

[aussiecro]

HELLO people sorry i haven't been around alot but i have had alot of personal shit happen in the last couple of months and it's take a toll on my university studies which i am behind in know and have to work my ass off to get all my essays in or else i fail the semester.

What i've noticed in the last couple of weeks on here is the talk off mary and fred being lazy, mary being a dolddigger, both off them not being great parents which i have to agree with in same respect becouse i was flicking through one of my old cosmopolitan mags from last year and i found this article and you guys are so crazy after all becouse when i read the article my eyes nearly poped out.

The saying it's easier to love arich man than a poor man is one elizabeth an attractive 24 year old promotions model and bussiness admin assitent takes very seriously. I'm not a golddigger, it not like i'm anna nicole smith trying to marry a decrepit billionaire, i'm just sick of dating guys who are broke! I like to be taken out to amazing restaurants and to have everthing paid for. My job is fun but it doesn't pay me very much and after i've paid the rent, evrthing i make is spent on clothes and beauty maintenance. So I need a guy to pay for things and rich man are very generous they love to show you a good time.

Hunting for a husband

Tanya 27 and her friends are so keen to live the wifestyle of the rich thay have a plan for meeting suitably affluent husband material. You need a traget rich enviroment she says, rather than going to bars and clubs with a young crew aim to go to corporate events, fundraisers, prestige car launches or hotel bars were corparate seminers are held anywhere where you might meet a man who is already established and wants to share it with sameone. Aim for over 30 sameone who has either inherited money or owns there own bussiness would be a good strat.

So the reason why i'm posting this is to talk about how mary perchived her own self image and how she feel into the trap she is in know by running after material seduction Think about it this way think back to the last two ex boyfrends and who they were and then look at the person she is married to and you will see a pattern emerging this is nobody else fault but mary;s.

[aussiecro]

Here is the second part to this article:

While not all women are actively pursuing financial security by hanging out in hotel lobbies reserch by BT financial group reveals 83% of young women plan of living off their partner aftyer they turn 50. They are saying that it a feminist worse nightmare that the message of being financially independent is still not getting trought to young people.
Becouse of these hard ecomnomic times it relfects our basic instinct and Frances Amaroux a reationships choch says it an ancient drive. over millennia women have always looked for a man to look after them and it's only in the last 50 years we have started to see that as weird as it sounds love is all you need as the beatles told us . Joan Baker who is an author agrees women are precondtioned to belive there partner should be the financial provider. The problem she says is the way in which women are socialised, and the young male knows everthing becouse everthing in society is telling tim so that if he is ever going to have a home of his own he is going to have to provide that there not same rich princess waiting around the corner for him.

But society still sends young women the message that their most important job is to look good becouse if you look good enough you will have the type of boyfreind who has the car and the apartment. The implication is that somebody else will take care of these things as long as your attractive enough.

This is actually a reality becouse Julie Jones runs millionnairedating.com.au which links the very best millionaire dating sites on the internet and recives thousands of hits each day. The majority of the people who register on these sites are young, very pretty girls looking for men who will look after them she says.
Jones belives the internet allows women to be more candid and confident in their search for a wealthy man. You can't exactly go up to a man in a bar and say what your net worth yet some of these sites employment and income are verified via tax receipts.


So what does this say about women in genral and about the way princess mary feels about herself?

[Barrie]

What a depressing article. I don't know what to say except the words of wisdom my mother told me. When it comes to men  and qualities to look for it is kindness, brains then looks. In that order. I think it is pretty good advice.

[aussiecro]

And this is the last part of the article:

Poor Men Need Not Apply:

One women who's not shy about her intentions to marry money is 22 year old Judy Liu she says by the time i'm 25 i expect to be married to a very rich man. He will need to have a least three million pounds in the bank plus the assests like a mansion and a couple of supercars she told a Uk magazine. Clearly Judy thinks she's a lucrative investment for a wealthy man. She lists her other assests as being my manners are flawless abd i can blend into any social situation from a bussiness dinner to lunch with his freinds on a yacht in st topez and she says she impeccably well groomed. This got a really bad response fronm it readers here are same of there comments:

she's proberly walk right past her soulmate becouse he not wearing an expensive enough suit or watch and i think that really sad i feel sorry for her.

i was shocked at how low somebody could stoop from an easy life yet how high Judy acutally rates herself. she is no better then a wannabe high calss hooker.

What a shollow, fake self absorbed girl.She clerly lives in a fake world and has no idea of real like. She will probably get her money man but will she be truly happy.

So will elizabeth or tanya or any off the other girls who priorites money in search for a partner. Amaroux concedes thar reserch does support the fact that financial secrity makes a realtionship easyier but in the end I think there is somethign very sad about sameone who has so disconnected their herat that her top priority is money and who belives designer handbages can make her happy.

This sound like Priness mary at the momment.

[Paddy1311]

An article in Cosmopolitian magagerzine is hardly indicative of  modern women. Most of the articles are fiction.

Although I think Mary is anti- feminist. She trying to go aganist the feminist movement

[Cassiopeia]

Thanks for your post. I hope your days gets better after this rough period.

I would like a bit of both, to have a lovely husband and a good life (not over the top though) but enough to lead a fulfilling and happy existence.

I believe Mary hit the jackpot, particularly from an evolutionary perspective. A human being strives to survive and reproduce. For ages, our behavior has been driven by measures ingrained in our psyche. We are here, in front of this screen, living and breathing, because our ancestors were successful in reproducing.

Humans tend to mate with the person that is able to provide. Provide what? For example, the chance of having a baby with good genes and opportunities to succeed in a tough, competitive world. We look for a mate that offers (love, resources, etc.) a good future for us and eventually, for our offspring. This leads to success from an evolutionary perspective. For example, Mette Marit screwed big time the first time but then through Haakon, she had the opportunity to enjoy a better life for herself and her son, love, status and money wise.

It is true that both women and men look for kindness, understanding, and intelligence. Men look for youth, beauty and health in women, cues for fecundity, so they can reproduce effectively. Men do not go crazy for older women. As men get older, they tend to prefer younger women. No wonder why, biologically, they tend to leave their “print” as much as possible (In some cultures, men who mate more are super machos, women that do so are sluts) Males with higher social status and superior economic power have higher reproductive success for they are more looked after. Women look for men that can provide the resources (money, status, affection) to ensure their survival and/or of their kids. I am not saying that women cannot do this for themselves.

It is just a theory. It does not apply in all cases, but it is there. Pretty simplistic but somewhat logical.

I find Mary’s lifestyle nice, in general terms. It is way over the top but it is definitely nice… all the domestic help available, infinite resources to assure a future with no worries. Money does not equal happiness but it helps indeed.

I do believe in most of the evolutionary psychology theory. I would love to have a husband that can provide good genes and enough resources. I would love to be a stay-at-home mom during the crucial development years and be near my kids as they grow up. I love children! I would also appreciate all the nanny, personal trainer, chefs and assistants so I could also have a part-time job in order to fulfill my professional aspirations.

It would be perfect if she had an affectionate, smart, hard-working, articulate, focused and loyal husband. 

[Cece]

Aussiecro,  We'll be here after you get your studies back on track, so go get 'em. Thanks for this.

Cassie, what about the Darwin Awards? I've always wondered if Freddles was a contender what with his love of speed by land, and sea!  Death by Mary?

http://www.darwinawards.com/

[Paddy1311]

Would you want to be married to a person who does not love you or respects you.?  Do you honsetly think Fredrick respects or loves MAry? Material things dosen't make a person happy. As the Dala Lama says, having someone to love brings happiness.

[Cara]

the thing is that mary did NOT do what the article says. the article recommends NOT to go to bars with a young crowd... but that's exactly what mary did. 

[dutchess]

Well, she knew in advance what SORT of young crowd would be there........

[Hester]

Hey aussiecro, thanks for confiding in us! 

NOw, do get your edgermacation, because smart, successful men tend to like educated gals! Plus, you have the option of earning your own money and you can marry "down" for love  ...

: )

[thrilla]

Nice contributions from some new/less active posters - great job, everyone! And Aussiecro, best of luck with your studies. We're rooting for ya! 

[Little_star]

aussiecro, good luck with the future. Uni is so important and the opportunities it will provide for you are priceless.

The article doesn't surprise me, the WAG lifestyle is very popular hre and ar too many women seem to want to have everything given to them on a plate.